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Friday, January 29th, 2010
9:17 pm - Shy Ronnie and Rihanna

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Sunday, January 10th, 2010
9:52 pm - Would you consider me rude or direct?
Trevor
3:24 PM Would you consider me rude or direct?

tymbaone
3:24 PM i'm gonna go cut my hair...be back in a few minutes

Trevor
3:25 PM you can contemplate your answer

tymbaone
3:25 PM you are direct for sure
3:26 PM you have little patience for "nicety" which is not to be confused with courtesy or decency

Trevor
3:27 PM but which can be misinterpreted as rudeness

tymbaone
3:27 PM some people mistake that for being crass or harsh... but they are not usually used to people who have an opinion about anything.

Trevor
3:28 PM exactly. Have an enjoyable hair cut

tymbaone
3:29 PM rude is when you shoulder people out of your way...or say nasty things to people when your opinion is not required...but in your case i think you are ASKED for your opinion and you give it evenhandedly and without nicety

Trevor
3:30 PM you understand me perfectly. Someone was calling me rude, and I thought I was nearly even diplomatic in the way I responded to them.

tymbaone
3:31 PM hmm diplomatic is a sticky word. diplomacy requires us to NOT express our opinion if it might offend someone.

Trevor
3:31 PM as i said "nearly"

tymbaone
3:31 PM yes

Trevor
3:31 PM I made a general statement as opposed to a directed one

tymbaone
3:31 PM well...too hot, kitchen...blah blah blah

Trevor
3:32 PM Like "I really don't care for cold weather,but I know some people find it quite enjoyable"

tymbaone
3:32 PM and you're sweating the details about this fragile person's perception of you why?

Trevor
3:33 PM for me a response like that is nearly diplomatic. I could've said, "You are out of your mind for loving this cold ass weather"
3:33 PM I think this person had some mis-perceptions of me, and I let them know that first they didn't really know me, because if they did they would know that I am direct.

tymbaone
3:34 PM rude was when this person called me a racist, when she did not know me, simply because "all white people are somewhat racist"

Trevor
3:34 PM And I won't generally comment on something I don't like but if I am directly questioned I will give, a honest answer with out care of if they will like it or not.
3:34 PM I think she would need more context.
3:35 PM Not making a general assessment based on her past experience
3:35 PM That is rude.

tymbaone
3:35 PM she got upset when i said generalizing about race IS racism...which she exemplified very well...this really pissed her off...because of course black people could not be racist could they???

Trevor
3:35 PM I will at least give the white person a little bit of rope before I hang them with it.

tymbaone
3:36 PM yes..

Trevor
3:36 PM Well it also depends on the definition of "racist" that you are working with.

tymbaone
3:36 PMi think her definition of racism is "white"

Trevor
3:37 PM With a black president in the office of the most powerful places in the world. I think the old heads haven't had time to shift their paradigm. Its not an "us" vs "them" conversation anymore, there is no more glass ceiling. If we do not do well we have no one else but ourselves to blame for not trying hard enough

tymbaone
3:38 PM its like what's been said about Muslim people lately..."Not all muslims are terrorists, but almost all terrorists are muslim"

Trevor
3:38 PM Well a political definition of racism is "prejudice & power = racism", It falls into the older paradigm, but it is still embraced by a lot of black people.
3:39 PM With Obama being the most powerful man on the planet, it flips that definition of racism on its side.
3:39 PM We have the power now, now all we need is persistence.

tymbaone
3:41 PM i think that people are so rubbed raw about racism that most times one can not even have a conversation about it
3:42 PM they'd just rather be angry and blame their issues on someone else
Trevor
3:42 PM Black people need to realize there has been a paradigm shift and the conversations of our past black leaders are nearly irrelevant, we are in new territory when it comes to discussions about race.

tymbaone
3:42 PM very well said

Trevor
3:43 PM We have place blame other places for a long time, even though the black upper classes realized. That it wasn't other people at fault, we just needed to work twice as hard.
3:44 PM I challenge myself to use Obama in my conversations and say as I try to educate my brother, "What do you think Obama teaches his children?" to get him away from this comparison to white people but to someone who looks just like him who has made it

tymbaone
3:44 PM I don't even deny that it does not still exist..in fact i still see it too often myself. i just don't think the solution comes from separate conversations..it is something we all need access to to find both our own ignorance and perhaps an unheard of unthought of solution

Trevor
3:46 PM I agree I think there is a lot of ignorance on all sides of the conversation, and the funny thing is if people got past all the bullshit they would really see we are more alike then different. Its something I realize as I travel more.

tymbaone
3:46 PM people are pretty much identical...

Trevor
3:48 PM And its very natural for us to gravitate to other people who look like us, share our religious beliefs, or live in the same geographic location as we do. But when we get down to the core emotions, we are all the same, even the differences have a sameness to them when you look at wider groups of people.

tymbaone
3:51 PM yeah...i agree. though i stopped gravitating to people who look like me a long time ago...there are still value judgments i make

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Thursday, January 7th, 2010
3:03 pm - a response to someone else blog post
A response to the Ungay guy's post http://theungayguy.wordpress.com/2010/01/07/the-battle-of-independence/



Funny, Jeff my path was a little similar albeit some differences in career choices and the fact that I was really focused on what I wanted to do in each "career" I choose. I came to the personal truth that I don't really like working, I would prefer my money to work for me.

After I did the self-employed thing for 6 years. I decided I would re-enter the profession that I left six years prior due to a recession (I see a trend here). But I would do it differently, one thing I learned from self-employment and my being let go from my employer in 2000, is that you have to create your own stability.

There is no such thing as job stability. It's this false thing that employers sell to you so you can feel comfortable about making your mortgage payments on a house you bought that is a little bit above what you can afford. I digress, but I realized I need to increase my financial acuity, if I was going to create my own stability.

This meant I was going to get my own financial coach to help me with the finer points of finance and upgrade my tax preparer to a CPA. I knew I would have to use my intelligence and street smarts to not only learn how to work the system, but to make sure that I had health insurance someone else was paying for, which would leave me with covering any other necessary insurances (i.e. rental insurance, travel insurance). It would also mean that I would have to take hold my taxes and related responsibilities, also the sometimes overlooked retirement goals and emergency funds. I got the appropriate books about finance from Dummy books to Rich Dad Poor Dad and things specific to I who I was Talking Dollars and Making Sense a guide to financial well being for African American by Brooke Stephens (who is also my financial coach).

So when I finally left my six year, work for myself gig, and had swallowed my pride and temporarily was on welfare, when I got my first "freelance" gig I deliberately stayed on welfare for six months into my gig so I could focus my goals on saving money for my emergency fund, starting to contribute to my retirement fund, and reducing my debt, while someone else was paying my rent. I would say it was a mildly risky venture, but as someone wise said Welfare was originally set up to give you a hand up, not to be a career choice.

I used it for the essence of what it is and with a year I had over 10k in my emergency fund and 5k in saved in my retirement account, with hardwork and discipline I changed financial habits, and In less then two years I went from Welfare to making a six figure salary, but living so below my means I was literally stacking paper as the rappers like to say.

I say all of this to say I am not one of those people who is bitter about the last decade I did some of the same analysis you did about yourself, and said that I want something different. I learned that "fulltime" can mean a lot of different things and for me it meant "freelance" working for 3-4 months then taking a trip to somewhere exotic.

As of this writing I haven't worked since April of 2008. I started collecting Unemployment in August of 2008 and have been collecting it ever since, but during this time I have traveled to India, Aruba, Belize, Miami, and currently the Dominican Republic. I made choice to do something different and it worked out for me. Notwithstanding I probably need to replenish my coffers but I think I can survive until the economy picks up, where I will continue to live my life on my terms with little to no culpability to no one but myself and my own happiness.

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Friday, January 1st, 2010
5:47 pm - Was the last decade really that awful?
Trevor Brown
5:31
Everyone is talking about how horrible the last decade was, and I just don't feel that way. Even with the recession.

JP
5:31
that's good right?

Trevor Brown
5:33
I guess, but I guess it makes me feel like even more of the iconoclast that I am chilling in DR for the next 19 days, having not been gainfully employed since April of 2008, and everyone else is looking at me crossed eyed for taking my fourth trip of the year. I guess I shouldn't be so concerned about the choices other people have made for their lives and not be ashamed that I am happy with my own.

JP
5:34
exactly

Trevor Brown
5:34
Well I think you understand how it is to go against the grain, and then everyone is mad at you because you are doing OK with that.
I just knew I didn't want any burdens in my life anymore, and I wanted to make money not an option anymore, and I did just that, why is everyone mad at me?

JP
5:36
jeaslousy

Trevor Brown
5:37
Like my brother "chose" to have seven kids I didn't. His sister chose to take care of 3 of them. I choose to travel and I am doing just that. People need to be happy with the carpet in their apartment and not cover other people's floor coverings

JP
5:39
You got it, they don't know how to do what you did and they think you are breaking teh rules by doing it and being happy. Problem is those are thier rules not yours and the alternative is play by thier rules to make them happy but be unhappy yourself, or play by your rules make you happy and let them figure it out for themselves...

Trevor Brown
5:39
This is why we get along
Just because I learn from all the stupid lessons on TV and do things that make me happy, people shouldn't hate, they should appreciate

JP
5:40
you will never make everyone happy so best to focus on making yourself happy imstead


Trevor Brown
5:42
I think we have to be responsible for our own happiness. We really can't be responsible for other peoples. But for some reason we are taught that we need to be or else we are being selfish. I just don't agree with that methodology.

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Saturday, October 17th, 2009
5:27 am - Excedrin for Racial Tension Headaches

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Monday, October 12th, 2009
9:13 am - nervous hellos
Am I crazy not to respond to a guttural habitual trigger response?

My grandmother would say "We didn't sleep together last night, you must greet me in the morning". So I know that my non-response towards the vicinity of another warm-blooded bipedal animal, isn't anything new but a tradition for me.

I just finished reading my father's copy of Frank Herbert's Dune, and in the book he talks about the VOICE. I guess this is something I can relate to. I will respond to those who speak to me in what I feel are appropriate tonal ranges, that don't feel like knee-jerk responses.

There is an overly chipper guest here who states "Hello" so bright and cheerful you can literally see the exclamation mark after it, but it doesn't bely the nervousness behind it, the societal need to say something. I feel we would be much better off if we said less (as I continue to type this blog entry).

I glared back at this guy, this being the second time he had assaulted me with his nervous hello. I thought he would have gotten the message and just left me alone, but the look in his eye was that of man's best friend waiting to get his ears scratched after making a bowel movement. I just had no desire to scratch this guys ears, so I maintained my veil of silence and kept moving.

"Good morning." pause pause "I said good morning!" This from an older black male I just reverted to my "training" and said hello, my voice laced with annoyance and condescension. Just because I glanced in your direction doesn't mean I need to acknowledge you beyond the aforementioned glance. Are we so lacking attention that we crave these inconsequential interactions with perfect strangers? In my household a "good morning" was supposed to met with the same, regardless of if that particular morning wasn't good.

Maybe my dysthymia gives me a different perspective of the subtleties and nuances of how a day is going. But when my time is my own I choose silence as oppose to feel into the hegemony that everything is so great.

When I am working, I camouflage my natural instinct and will be that first one to instigate a "Good Morning!", and dare you not to reply with the same. In that forum its a mask part of the role I play when I step into the corporate world, part of the charm of character to "care" about how people are in the morning and if they are really having a good morning.

In the work place I learned of an excellent rote response to a question I never really like answering, but people seemed compelled to always ask you, also on my list of nervous utterances. "How you doin?" In its essence it seems innocuous, simple, direct. But for someone who ponders even the lint in his navel it becomes a serious philosophical conundrum that is layered with infinite nuances. How am I doing? Had I really had enough hours of the morning awake to answer this question responsibly, truthfully and directly?

Maybe I complicated very simple societal pleasantry and etiquette, maybe this was my inner iconoclast wanting to people to consider more seriously if they really wanted to know the answer to that question. When I met Phyliss Yvonne Stickney she helped me find a way to answer this question that not only made people think about the actually question but bought attention to the fact that I was cognitive of the seriousness of the question.

"Good Morning, Phyliss, how are you?"

"I am blessed, anyhow." she would respond and continue about her business, never for a moment thinking of the wake of destruction she left in her path with her own personal schtick. The "anyhow" added a nuance, that could be interpreted a number of ways based on the delivery and inflection. It also bought religion or spirituality into the picture, which is an entire nuance into itself. I adapted the potent response myself and was pleasantly amused by how it changed my perception by the person who thought he was going to ask me a very intimate question and not know that I had had a good solid response.

In the work place this gave me an air of religious dignity or spiritual enlightenment, something not common to corporate america, and usually discourage, but not overt enough to make the recipient too uncomfortable but to make them cautious the next time they blurted that nervous question in a ritualistic fashion without understanding the repercussions of their actions. In more casual settings, I learned that there was an addendum to the phrase "and highly favored". Which led me to believe that its roots lead somewhere to the church, not surprising with me first hearing it from and mid-aged black woman.

Maybe I will always just be a cranky loner or maybe someday will get a clue and leave me alone. I wish people would say what the meant. I wish we were more honest with the things that come out of our mouths.

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Saturday, May 30th, 2009
8:47 pm - Windows Brooklyn is an art exhibition that will be installed in numerous storefronts along Court St
FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE
Opening Reception: Saturday, June 6, 1-6pm, the Transit Garden at Smith St. and 2nd Place during Bite of BoCoCa

Art Walk: Saturday, June 13, 2-4pm. Visit window locations to meet the artists.
Transit Garden Performances: See www.windowsbrooklyn.com for details on a performance by Shelton Walker, and the play “In Regards to Trains: A Play about Transit, Transitions and Travel. A Tragedy.” Created by Lisa Rafaela Clair and Emily Zimmer, featuring live music by The Woes.

Visit www.windowsbrooklyn.com for a full list of participating storefronts and artists, schedule of events, printable map of the area and more.
Windows Brooklyn is an art exhibition that will be installed in numerous storefronts along Court Street and Smith Street in the Carroll Gardens and Cobble Hill neighborhoods of Brooklyn from June 6-13, 2009.

The exhibition will take art out of the traditional museum or gallery setting and incorporate it into a vibrant public space. The show will turn pedestrians into viewers, slowing down impa-tient walkers and transforming the frequently traveled routes of harried commuters. Turning independent business owners into collaborators who are willing to exchange commerce for culture, the exhibition is a commentary on the nature of the window both as a physical object and as an idea, one that goes far beyond just pieces of glass. We seek to reflect the incredible history of Brooklyn while simultaneously adding to it. It will forge new connections between art-ists and their communities, change the ways in which we direct our gazes, and alter our habits for interacting with the structures that surround us.

Participating artists include: Benjamin Boland, Trevor Brown, Jeffrey Burdian, Carda Burke, Susan Canaday Henry, Lisa Rafaela Clair, Miranda Clark, Eric Corriel, Amanda Curreri, Kelly Diaz, Stephanie DiGregorio, Joyce Goodman, Melissa Goodwin, Katherine Gressel, Emily Harris,
Julie Hau, Johannah Herr, Judson, Nate Kassel, Mike Lawrie, Jess Levey, Stephanie Liner, Annica Lydenberg, Jacob Mann, Sharon Mashihi, Joetta Maue, Laura McCabe, Mu Pan, Jung Min Park, Kate Parry, Anne Polashenski, Roy & Reiko Reid, Joshua Schwartz, Sarah Simon, Kara Smith, Shelton Walker, Julia Whitney Barnes, The Woes, Jamie Venci, Emily Zimmer, Lia Zuvilivia

Windows Brooklyn is curated by Leah Gauthier, Sara Jones and Andrea Wenglowskyj.

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Friday, March 6th, 2009
11:38 am - NY Times coverage of Ordinary Wonderful
NY Times will be coming to the opening tonight. They have posted a blog entry about tonight's exhibition:
http://fort-greene.blogs.nytimes.com/2009/03/06/the-day-myrtle-avenue-ever-a-bustle/

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Thursday, February 26th, 2009
3:06 pm - Myrtle Windows Gallery presents: ordinary wonderful

A solo exhibition celebrating everyday beauty by Brooklyn-based artist Trevor Brown

CLINTON HILL, BROOKLYN, February 26, 2009, 2008 – For the next month, three blocks of Myrtle Avenue will again play host to the Myrtle Windows Gallery, an open-air art gallery of ten storefront windows, with an exhibition of photographs by Brooklyn-based artist Trevor Brown. This exhibit, entitled ordinary wonderful, is sponsored by the Myrtle Avenue Brooklyn Partnership (the Partnership) as part of their larger effort to bring art to public spaces on the retail corridor. The Partnership and artist Brown will celebrate this exhibit with a public reception on Friday, March 6th from 6pm-8pm at Karen’s Body Beautiful at 436 Myrtle Avenue between Clinton and Waverly, after a guided tour beginning at 5:30pm.

The Myrtle Windows Gallery brings two-dimensional art traditionally limited to the private gallery to the public arena via the storefront window, where it is accessible to anyone walking down the street. This exhibition features the work of photographer Trevor Brown, whose work encourages all of us to take a moment to enjoy the beauty around us that we see every day, but too often take for granted. The Partnership issued an open call for participating in this exhibition, and selected Brown from a strong pool of local applicants because of striking content and color in his work that brings a new light to familiar places.

“From railroad tracks to garbage cans and window gates - you would never guess that the images in this show were all shot in Brooklyn. Even our local eateries with backyard gardens become magical places in the right light,” says artist Brown, whose works will be offered for sale at price points considered quite affordable. Brown explains, “Community access to the arts has always been important to me as an artist. This is an opportunity that sounds like it is custom-made for me.” Information on pricing is available inside participating stores. Un-mounted prints can also be ordered through the Partnership.
“Art on Myrtle enriches the daily experience of the visitor, shopper, and resident, and also highlights what makes this community special. We are thrilled to be able to create opportunities for local artists like Trevor Brown to show their work through this initiative,” explains Meredith Phillips Almeida, the Partnership’s Director of Community Development. Conceived as an innovative local economic development strategy with the dual purpose of increasing access to art and driving foot traffic to Myrtle Avenue, Myrtle Windows Gallery offers an added bonus for participating merchants – if a piece is sold, the store where it is displayed will receive a commission. Prior to the opening reception, Brown will lead at guided tour of the exhibit at 5:30pm on Friday, March 6th beginning at Karen’s Body Beautiful at 436 Myrtle Avenue. Light refreshments will be served at the opening reception, which takes place from 6-8pm at Karen’s Body Beautiful and is free and open to the public.

The pieces will be on display until April 1, 2009 in the following storefronts, all located within three blocks on Myrtle Avenue between Hall Street and Clinton Avenue: Anima (458 Myrtle); Five Spot Supper Club (459 Myrtle); Joseph Tyler Salon (456 Myrtle); Karen’s Body Beautiful (436 Myrtle); Karrot Health Food (431 Myrtle); Miracles Unisex Barber Shop (473A Myrtle); Move with Grace Dance & Yoga Studio (469 Myrtle); Optimum Care Rehab (474 Myrtle); Thai 101 Restaurant (455A Myrtle); Three Stars Laundromat (439 Myrtle). The Partnership’s public art program is funded in part by a grant from the Lily Auchincloss Foundation and Myrtle’s Business Improvement District.

Contact:
Meredith Phillips, Myrtle Avenue Brooklyn Partnership, 718-230-1689, meredith "at" myrtleavenue.org
Trevor Brown, trevor "at" trevorbrowndesign.com, www.trevorbrownonline.com

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Saturday, January 10th, 2009
10:46 am - Writer's Block: Back to School
What fictional high school—from tv, film, or a book—would you most like to attend? Or would you rather never go near high school again, fictional or otherwise?
I actually attended the fictional school of my dreams and that was that the School of Performing Arts from the television series Fame. I adored the show as a kid and as an adult ended up going there. It was funny because everyone called me Leroy, even though I was a drama major I danced.

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10:11 am - Drama in Miami
So Raviv and I had a big fight last night after his friend Lior was less then discreet.

After the visit of the "trick" or "date", which I didn't know which he was things were very awkward. I had left the house that morning for a very long bike ride. I didn't arrive back until 5:30pm and then only things I knew was that Raviv was horny, I was assuming he would take care of whatever needs while I was away or find some way to signal me that he was still on the prowl.

So I came in gritty, dirty and tired from biking for nearly six miles and several hours. And the first thing I see when I put my camera down is Raviv walking naked from the bathroom to his bedroom to be followed a couple seconds later by this buff bald guy wearing a towel. Now should I have gotten the message that he was still occupied? Maybe. But coming from the shower usually means the deed is finished, there may be some post-coital antics but that is usually the aftermath, but it wasn't, they went into the bedroom and I settled down, waiting for a good time to take a shower since I was filthy after riding on the highway.

The night wore on I took a shower and it didn't seem like Ron who I later learned was this guy Raviv went out on a date with New Year's Eve. As opposed to taking me aside which he had many opportunities to do and tell me he wanted some time alone with this guy, which I wasn't sure until like after the 2nd shower they took together, he actively invited me to eat with them, and join them for a movie, can we say holy mixed messages Batman. (I was later called a bitch for staying)

After these shenanigans I decided to give Raviv more space, the next day I only saw him once in the morning and didn't get in until 12:30am that morning, the next day I stayed out until 9pm only seeing him briefly in the morning. So yesterday evening I came in around 9:00pm again, he wasn't home and the apartment was stuff so I switched out of my clothes, put some shorts on and sat shirtless on the couch. Watching the new season of 24.

Raviv comes in about 40-45 min later, and the next to first thing out of his mouth is "Why are you sitting naked on my new couch", to which I responded "I am not naked, I am wearing shorts" to which he responded "put a shirt on", to which I said "fine", slightly annoyed with his every changing and appearing house rules. So then he proceeds to ask me about my day and I tell him I went to the movies and saw The Day the Earth Stood Still and Gran Camino, he asked me if I wanted to eat something the first of like four times and I told him that I am adult and I had fed myself and was fine.

This is the thing that drives me crazy about Raviv, his social graces are lacking around host etiquette, esp when the host is not setting clear rules and boundaries. So after my telling him for the fiftieth time that I have completed my commitment and suitable paid for my room and board with the designing of a web page for him (http://www.enjoyfoodmiami.com). But typical Raviv behavior he is not happy with just this but wants even more. Even though I got his web page designed and up and live within less then 4 hour, he wanted me to do a business card and a flier also now. I had told him repeatedly that he has a guy doing his business card why doesn't he just contact him. And I said his flier is fine all he really needed to do was get it copied and add the new URL to it.

Then he did something very typically Raviv, he tried to go on about everything he had done for me during my trip to Miami (Jewish guilt), to which I countered everything I did for him including photographing, posting and vetting the emails for the removal of his couch. I reminded him that not only did I bring him a gift (albeit my book of photos), but I had taken him out to lunch (to the tune of $65 dollars), lent him $40 bucks to tip his new couch movers, and generally been a meticulous house guest, keeping the living room tidy. I paid for one of his sandwiches, bought 9 rolls of toilet paper for the house (after his other guest used it all), and I bought my own food to nosh on during my visit.

He reminded me he had to clean up the bathroom after me (I realize why its good for people to have separate bathroom, my environmentally conscious attitude is some discarded paper in the toilet is not a reason to waste water for a flush and I had once mistakenly left a turd behind and after getting up to early I had forgotten to do the courtesy flush), he then complained about the sound of my bracelets jingling, yelled at me for blowing up the air mattress I was sleeping on (that was extremely loud no fault of mine), and complained about his curtains smelling like the hair oil that I sprayed on my hair.

After that I didn't miss a courtesy flush, I took my bracelets off when I entered the house, I sprayed my hair outside on the balcony, and one night I took my air mattress all the way down to the laundry room to blow it up, as not to disturb his majesty.

What Raviv doesn't get but I think he understands on some level is that he was nit picking, and I was left to navigate a virtual invisible mine field of triggers that may go off at any instant. I let him know it is very ungracious to attempt to guilt someone into doing something for you, regardless of if its something they can easily do or not. He then told me that his mother thought I was an ungrateful house-guest for not doing the thing he asked if I could do him. I told him his mother could go fuck her self. Who the fuck is she to tell me what I should or shouldn't be doing.

This is a pet-peeve of mine with Raviv he is always looking for other people's approval for what to do or not do. It annoyed him that I would never give him an opinion but ask him how he felt about something. Letting him know what I felt about his new couch was irrelevant, it was after all he who had to live with it not me.

So then it got really nasty when he told me that he had spoken to Lior and he knew I was deliberately being mean to Ron, and that Lior told me I should have went to a cafe. Now this pissed me off because typical Raviv he got the details wrong. I was emailing back and forth with Lior talking about who the hell was this guy that Raviv had over, and how awkward the situation was. I did admit to not being overly friendly, but that is my typical SOP when a relationship with someone is unclear, I am not going to welcome them with open arms.

Lior suggested I go to a hotel, and I said why should do that, besides I am a cheap bitch, and my reason for taking this trip was to do it as inexpensively as possible. Raviv then did something that really pissed me off, he told me what was was said in a conversation I had with Lior, he said that Lior told me to go to a cafe, and I can't deny it because he read it. I was furious because anyone who knows Raviv knows his spoken English is passable but his written English is horrible. I bought up Lior comment and showed him that Lior suggested a "HOTEL", not a "CAFE".

At this point I was fuming at the betrayal from Lior who I was politely venting with, so I sent Lior an email telling him he had stabbed me in the back, he said Raviv was his friend, to which I said was true, (not that I had expected discretion), but I was not expecting a confrontation over an email dialog I had with Lior, I let him know I would make my own way to the airport and that I didn't need a ride from him.

I was particularly peeved with Lior who I had at first gotten off to rockily after he "sniffed" me, I bopped him with a pillow letting him know it was inappropriate to be sniffing people. But over the next few days after taking his Art Deco tour and purchasing one of his scarves which I insisted on paying the full retail price for ($85, instead of the $25 wholesale value - I will be calling AMEX to get that money back), I had also gave him some legal notes on his sales representative contact and retyped the entire thing making it more legally sound. I was even considering passing some contacts at some high end boutiques in New York to him because I thought his product was strong enough to retail well there, but after all of this business that was all off.

So of course after Raviv and my "fight" died down Raviv went and took a shower, and Lior called Raviv on his cell phone. When Raviv got out of the shower he had asked me if the stove had chimed I said no but that his phone did ring (not telling him that I checked the caller ID knowing Lior would call after getting my emails). He then got Lior on the phone and proceeded to tell him we didn't have a fight, and said a fight was what Israel was currently engaged in but not what we just had, even though voices were raised and there was general nastiness all around. Then he did something that I had found rude during my entire trip (but didn't say anything about it, even though Rotem his other houseguest had noted it was rude) he spoke to Lior in Hebrew.

After his conversation with Lior I didn't even pretend I didn't have an attitude. And Raviv got the non-verbal message that I was not pleased and took the movie he had invited me to watch with him in his room, said good evening and closed the door.

Now Tony had commented this is a good reason to get a hotel when you are traveling which I still have to disagree with, I spent a month with Dave and Jenny (Dave was basically a co-worker), mind you we had separate bathrooms. And I told Tom who agreed with Tony that even this drama has been fun. I was going brain dead in Brooklyn. I needed a change of environment and with the fact that I haven't worked since April 2008 I can't be P Diddy traveling all over and pretending I have limitless monies. So I accept the drama of staying with others because in my life there is such little drama, in the future esp for my upcoming Dirty South tour I will confirm with people that I have my own bedroom and bathroom, and make sure if there are any house rules I am clear about all of them up front.

All in all it has still been a very good trip. I got some really great photos, which I was in-fact surprised by, I had some adventures positive and negative, I learned that my carbon friendly approach to the world isn't shared by everybody, and that regardless of what Raviv says, I am still a albeit eccentric but good house guest.

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Friday, May 30th, 2008
9:39 am - 050708 Teaser (Chandni Chowk)




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Thursday, May 22nd, 2008
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Wednesday, May 7th, 2008
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